Stay or Go? The Hardest Decision: Separation And the 6 Questions that test the assumption that you should “Stick it out no matter what!”   This hits upon one of the toughest questions we all face in marriage or in a relationship we thought would last forever…and, for most of us, it IS going to be a question raised at some point along the way: Should I stay or should I go? How do you know when the marriage/relationship is a lost cause and it's time to throw in the towel? Or, is it time to square off, get straight with one another and work things out? What happened? We met, and the Earth stood still. We made love and the Earth shook beneath our bed. We wanted to breathe one another's breath, even in the morning! We could not get enough of each other. Then the first argument happened.