“Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is by far the best ending for one.”- Oscar Wilde
WHAT IS A BEST FRIEND?
After our speedbump – making the point here that even close relationships have their trials – we were so “clear” with one another from then on. Another point here is that a real friendship not only survives speedbumps, they GET STRONGER because of them.
Uncomfortable as they may be, in retrospect they are the moments that weld the relationship tighter than ever.
And generosity is always a factor in deep friendships. Eugene paid my tuition one term at FSU as I was soooooooo broke, trying to live on $335 a month with $190 for my apartment. He never wanted the money back, refused to take it. If I needed to borrow his car, it was there. If I needed to talk about my problems, he was there. When he spoke of his issues with working for the governor of Florida or his ongoing combat with his ex-wife, I was there for him.
But mostly, I remember how much we laughed together. I miss his laugh and will never forget it. Eugene was such a dear friend, and I miss him to this day. After I left Tallahassee, he wrote to me saying he had moved to California to find “a more intellectually and sexually enlightened community than northern Florida.” He passed away some years ago in the LA area.
I named my first born after Eugene, that is how much he meant to me, and always will.
Make the Most of Your Differences
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